Why Saying No Is Good For Your Career
Be honest, how good are you at saying no? Have you ever considered that saying no is good for your career? Are you a people pleaser? Do you think that being compliant and pleasant is good for your career? Well, it can be, and heaven knows I don’t want a world where everyone is unhelpful and just out for themselves.
But we have to grasp this nettle. If you always say yes to things when asked, even if you don’t want to do them, you are not valuing your time enough. And if you don’t value yourself and your contribution no one else will.
Some Tips To Help You Say No
Say YES. (But Remember, Saying No Is Good For Your Career)
It sounds mad, doesn’t it? You want to say no so think yes. This only works if you genuinely want to do something but can’t to do it at this point in time. Try saying, ‘I’d love to but can’t right now. Can you ask me again in a few weeks when I’m less busy? Or, ‘I really want to do it and I want to do it properly, which I can’t at the moment. If it can wait for a month I’ll gladly oblige‘.
Get in First
If you can see a demand coming your way try to get in first. Tell them how busy you are before they make an actual request. You might say something like ‘I’m glad we’ve had this opportunity to talk now as my diary is full for the next month – I can’t fit in another thing‘.
Keep Your Diary Up To Date
To be able to say no and be genuine you need to know why you can’t say yes. Sometimes we end up saying yes because we can’t think of a reason not to. We just have a nagging doubt that we shouldn’t. Then we check our diaries and realise that we have over committed ourselves! Always try and know what commitments you have, social or work, then you’ll be ready with a genuine response.
Don’t Keep Apologising
I think it’s fine to start with ‘I’m sorry but… as you are really saying ‘I’m sorry I can’t help you on this occasion’. However, if you pepper your conversation with apologies you’ll begin to sound like you really could do it and don’t have a right to say no. You will be putting yourself in an inferior position. The tone of your voice is important too, as well as eye contact and body language. Speak clearly and firmly – you don’t have to be aggressive but neither you should be passive. Assert yourself!
Value Yourself and Your Time
Sometimes at a subconscious level we may feel that our time is not as valuable as anyone else’s. If you find yourself agreeing to do things that could easily be done by the person asking you might fall into this category. This may require a bit of work on your part but try repeating to yourself ‘my time is valuable and I am valuable’. It will remind you not to put yourself down.
Practice, Because Saying No Is Good For Your Career
Like any new skill it takes practice. Don’t leap in with someone you find most difficult to turn down. That’s like jumping in the deep end of a pool when you’re only at the paddling stage. You’ll be very fed up afterwards as you’ll probably sink… Instead try saying no when the stakes aren’t too high.
Take a deep breath and say no, confidently and assertively. Surprise yourself, and maybe a few other people.
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Posted on July 16th, 2024 by Jane
