Do You Know Your Type?
No, I’m not talking about sexual attraction here (I’m sure you know your type in that area!), but your MBTI type. If that doesn’t mean anything to you, read on for enlightenment!
I’ve had a flurry of Myers Briggs enquiries lately which is great because I love the using the *MBTI for coaching. It really suits my style of working. It’s totally non judgemental; you can’t pass or fail it or feel you must aspire to score 100%. It just doesn’t work like that. It’s simply a helpful tool to help you think about yourself and your personality in all sorts of areas of life.
I find it enormously helpful when coaching and my clients love it too. And it was devised by a mother daughter team to boot! (Above) It’s stood the test of time and been added to and revised by psychologists and is still highly respected, despite being introduced in the fifties.
Nature/Nurture
The profiling tool was developed on the initial work of Carl Jung. In brief, (and very simply) Myers & Briggs believed that we all born with innate personality traits and those are the ones we will pay attention to first. We’ll get good at those very quickly and develop them.
Then there are other traits which we develop as we grow and mature but as they are learned traits Myers-Briggs believe that under stress we’ll probably revert to type, to our first instincts and do what comes naturally. And that isn’t always good for us – but it is good to know the signs! Understanding your type can help in almost every area of your life.
For example, instinctively you may be drawn to your own company and dislike socialising. But socialising may be a prerequisite for your role at work or home so you make a conscious effort to develop that side of your personality. And you can become really good at socialising and be the life and soul in company. However, when the chips are down and stress levels are high you’ll probably revert to type and tuck yourself away. Being with people won’t help you and is more likely to drain you.
If you’ve never had an MBTI assessment I thought it might be helpful if I shared mine with you. I came out as an ENFJ (there are 16 categories as below) and it’s a profile I recognise! I don’t neatly fit every bit of the profile, no one ever does but overall I can’t argue with it. I’ve shortened it (if you have an assessment you’ll get much more than this). I hope you’ll agree it confirms I’m in the right job!
Profile of an ENFJ
ENFJs are people-focused individuals; they live in the world of people possibilities and have excellent people skills. They understand and care about people, and have a special talent for bringing out the best in others. ENFJ’s main interest in life is giving love, support, and a good time to other people. They are focused on understanding, supporting, and encouraging others. They make things happen for people, and get their best personal satisfaction from this.
Because ENFJ’s people skills are so extraordinary, they have the ability to make people do exactly what they want them to do. They get under people’s skins and get the reactions that they are seeking. ENFJ’s motives are usually unselfish, but ENFJs who have developed less than ideally have been known to use their power over people to manipulate them. [I promise I don't manipulate my clients! :)]
I want to be alone…
ENFJ’s are so externally focused that it’s especially important for them to spend time alone. This can be difficult for some ENFJs, because they have the tendency to be hard on themselves and turn to dark thoughts when alone. Consequently, ENFJs might avoid being alone, and fill their lives with activities involving other people. ENFJs tend to define their life’s direction and priorities according to other people’s needs, and may not be aware of their own needs. It’s natural to their personality type that they will tend to place other people’s needs above their own, but they need to stay aware of their own needs so that they don’t sacrifice themselves in their drive to help others.
People love ENFJs. They are fun to be with, and truly understand and love people. They are typically very straight-forward and honest. Usually ENFJs exude a lot of self-confidence, and have a great amount of ability to do many different things. They are generally bright, full of potential, energetic and fast-paced. They are usually good at anything which captures their interest.
ENFJs like for things to be well-organized, and will work hard at maintaining structure and resolving ambiguity. They have a tendency to be fussy, especially with their home environments. [I haven't noticed that one - better ask my family!]
In the work place, ENFJs do well in positions where they deal with people. They are naturals for the social committee. Their uncanny ability to understand people and say just what needs to be said to make them happy makes them naturals for counselling. They enjoy being the centre of attention, and do very well in situations where they can inspire and lead others, such as teaching.
Ours is not to reason why?
ENFJs do not like dealing with impersonal reasoning. They don’t understand or appreciate its merit, and will be unhappy in situations where they’re forced to deal with logic and facts without any connection to a human element. Living in the world of people possibilities, they enjoy their plans more than their achievements. They get excited about possibilities for the future, but may become easily bored and restless with the present.
ENFJs have a special gift with people, and are basically happy people when they can use that gift to help others. They get their best satisfaction from serving others. Their genuine interest in Humankind and their exceptional intuitive awareness of people makes them able to draw out even the most reserved individuals.
In general, ENFJs are charming, warm, gracious, creative and diverse individuals with richly developed insights into what makes other people tick. This special ability to see growth potential in others combined with a genuine drive to help people makes the ENFJ a truly valued individual. As giving and caring as the ENFJ is, they need to remember to value their own needs as well as the needs of others.
Your MBTI Profile
If you’d like to find out more about your MBTI profile call me, or take a look at my 3QI programme. It’s a really valuable personal development tool and currently offered at a great price!
*MBTI, Myers-Briggs Type Indicator, Myers-Briggs, the MBTI logo and Introduction to Type are registered trademarks of the Myers-Briggs Type Indicator Trust. Strong Interest Inventory, FIRO-B, SkillsOne, and Davies-Black are registered trademarks and CPI 260, CPI, California Psychological Inventory, the CPP logo, the FIRO-B logo and the CPI 260 logo are trademarks of CPP, Inc. Jane studied the MBTI in the US, the home of MBTI
**This is correct spelling in MBTI terms, taken from Jung.
Are YOU a Highly Sensitive Person?
Some people are much more sensitive than others – are you one of them? Are you an HSP?
When we feel vulnerable, lacking in confidence we all have a tendency to magnify our reactions and the reactions of others. If we’re feeling we’re not good enough at work, or we’re not attractive, for example, a chance remark from someone that seems to confirms those fears will have a huge impact on us.
Heightened Sensitivities
But there are some people for whom feeling a sense of heightened sensitivity is not an occasional occurrence. It colours their whole lives, which can severely limit their opportunities to live life to the full.
The American Psychologist, Dr Elaine Aron, has identified a distinct personality type called the HIGHLY SENSITIVE PERSON, (HSP). She has estimated that probably between 15 to 20% of the population fall into this category.
If you are an HSP you will process information and experiences more deeply; you’ll be more aware of the subtelties in life and in your surroundings. You might even find yourself getting overwhelmed if too much sensory information is around you.
Being HSP doesn’t necessarily mean you’ll be introverted and it isn’t any more common in one gender than another. Dr Aron says it’s an all or nothing trait with a psychological basis- you either are or you’re not.
She has a test on her site which you can find here
If you score highly, all is not lost and this is a quality you can learn to value for the insight it brings. Just take a bit of time to reflect and use your gift of great empathy wisely and enjoy it.
An Introduction to The Myers Briggs Type Indicator
What is MBTI?
If you’ve ever taken an MBTI assessment you will know the answer to that. If you haven’t, the answer may surprise you!
MBTI (Myers-Briggs Type Indicator) is a personality assessment tool and was developed by a mother and daughter team, Isabel Briggs Myers and her mother, Katherine Cook Briggs. Katherine was very interested in the theories of Carl Jung and believed that if there was a way of putting a practical application on them it could greatly benefit individuals. She began this work between the two world wars but the MBTI assessment tool is still being developed and refined to this day.
Jung talked about types of personality and after several years of literally watching people, Myers put together the first paper and pencil questionnaire to assess these types.
Please note- it is a questionnaire never a TEST. You can’t pass it or fail it. It’s not based on the idea that there is a right or wrong way to be, like so many other psychological assessments. Simply put, it helps you appreciate your own strengths, gifts and potential for development. It also helps you understand and appreciate how and why others may differ from you and can be a really useful tool when coaching. Unlike other psychological profiling, the respondent has to be comfortable with their type. If you answer the questions and don’t agree with what the end type, then your view is paramount.
How Does it Work?
Very briefly, the MBTI assessment takes eight types (or attitudes) that are grouped into pairs. The pairings are:
Extraversion (E) or Introversion (I)
Sensing (S) or Intuition (N)
Thinking (T) or Feeling (F)
Judging (J) or Perceiving (P)
The respondent, after discussion with a qualified practitioner like myself, completes a questionnaire. The questions have been designed and refined, so that you will almost always fall into one of the pairs (or dichotomies), which is one reason why it is so well respected. You then get given your 4 letter type. I am ENFJ, for example. It’s not perfect, nothing that relies on us to give our responses is, but its reliability is very high.
Myers and Briggs, following Jung’s theories, believed that we all have innate preferences for one aspect of the pairings and this is the one we will pay attention to developing, that will just come naturally to us, like being right or left handed. It doesn’t mean that we can’t do the other, or become extremely skilled at it, but we may have to consciously develop that side of ourselves.
What Are You?
Undertaking Myers Briggs will help you determine whether you are Extravert or Introvert, whether you use Sensing or Intuition, Thinking or Feeling, Judging or Perceiving. By the way, the words Extravert and Introvert were coined by Jung and have been absorbed into the English language but along the way the meaning (and the spelling) has altered a little.
To further explain the differences, when we commonly talk about people being extrovert we mean sociable and outgoing while we use introverted to mean shy and perhaps a little withdrawn.Jung had a different meaning! When he talked about an Extravert he meant those who orient their energy to the outer world,who gain their energy from looking outwards. Introverts direct their energy to their inner world.
Party Animals
Here is a short story to help make it clearer. It’s Friday night and my colleague and I have a work party we feel we ought to attend. At 4pm neither of us wants to go and we are whinging away about it while clearing our desks. However, we have given a
commitment and it would be rude and unkind to pull out at this stage and so we go.
At the party we are both the life and soul. We talk to everyone; we get up and dance when asked (and even when not), we enjoy the food, the wine, the company and to all intents and purposes we have a great time and no one would ever know we hadn’t wanted to go.
But one of us is an extravert and one of us is an introvert – yet we have both behaved in the same way. My colleague is an introvert. She has genuinely enjoyed the party but it has taken its toll and she looks forward to getting home to her own space and curling up with a book. Then she will replenish herself and the energies she has expended doing something that doesn’t come entirely naturally to her. She needs her private time, although she is very sociable, has great social skills, and not at all shy.
I too am looking forward to going home and resting my weary feet and curling up in bed with a good book. But I have no need of replenishment. I have just gained enormous energy from being with people and doing what comes naturally. I still enjoy my private space, everyone needs a bit of time to themselves, but there is a qualitative difference between me and my friend.
Conclusion
I have found using the MBTI to be enormously helpful, not only in coaching but in my own personal development. I love the fact that it doesn’t preach or tell you you’re wrong or lacking in something! If applied correctly, it merely helps you look at yourself in a way that is supportive and useful. If you would like a consultation or any more information, do contact me.
MBTI, Myers-Briggs Type Indicator, Myers-Briggs, the MBTI logo and Introduction to Type are registered trademarks of the Myers-Briggs Type Indicator Trust. Strong Interest Inventory, FIRO-B, SkillsOne, and Davies-Black are registered trademarks and CPI 260, CPI, California Psychological Inventory, the CPP logo, the FIRO-B logo and the CPI 260 logo are trademarks of CPP, Inc.
