I posted a blog the other day about women being invisible (see here for the female cloak of invisibility). Someone commented that if you want to feel invisible you should try being over 50. Then, she commented wryly, you really feel under the cloak.
Well, today I am 58. It’s a number and it bothers me not a jot. And let me tell you I will not be a quiet, invisible older woman. Not in a million years.
Today I am more fulfilled than I have ever been. I no longer waste time bemoaning what might have been but enjoy life to the full for what is. I can’t run like a gazelle (well, actually I never could!) so I don’t waste time moaning about that. Focus on what you have, what works for you.
At 58 I find myself in the wonderful position of being able to share my wisdom about life with a host of other women through RenewYou and our fast growing network of women trainers. I’d have laughed if you’d told me at 30 I’d be doing that. I thought I’d be slowing down. No chance! Instead I really love what I’m doing and it energises me every single day. I train women who train other women to be the best that they can be, irrespective of age! How wonderful is that? I have the best job I have ever had in my life, and it started when I took control of my own destiny and left my safe, comfortable job with a good pension. (Everyone kept telling me about the good pension but sometimes you just have to do what you’ve got to do. Life is too short!)
No, I will not be a quiet, older, invisible woman.
And neither should you.
Refuse to be defined by a number. Don’t let anyone cover you in the cape of invisibility. Don’t buy into the myth of having to be young to be beautiful. Age is beautiful. I love a person who wears their years with pride and doesn’t distort themselves into some facsimile of someone’s else’s idea of femininity and beauty. Be true to you and don’t read magazines which start with the assumption that you must want to look ten years younger. Looking good, yes, but younger? Pah!
In my 58 years I have lost many good friends who did not have the privilege of growing older; most recently a very young friend whose life ended prematurely and tragically. Who am I to moan and bewail my passing years when I am so bloomin’ lucky to be here. I feel I owe it to those who have gone before to live life to the full. To help others when I can, and to make the most of every second.
And that’s my philosophy. The bad stuff will come unbidden, there’s little we can do about that except face it bravely. Be kind when you can, take every opportunity to celebrate, and live life fully until the day you die. It’s always your day. Grab it! Noisily!
The top photo, by the way, is of me with the fabulous Miriam O’Reilly and the lower one is of me on my 50th birthday when I was laughing hysterically as my Elvis Birthday cake set off all the smoke detectors! By the way, one should always wear a tiara on one’s birthday, whatever age or gender…
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Posted on October 29th, 2013 by Jane