Women, You Are So Powerful!



You are so much more powerful than you realise.

Feeling powerful is feeling confident. You cannot feel confident or powerful if you feel inferior. If you think you should be two sizes smaller, (says who?), if you think your nose is wrong, (says who?) if you think you shouldn’t be in the job you have because others are better, if you have been harassed and no one took any action, if your parents always wanted a son and heir, if your schoolteacher dismissed your ambitions, if you’ve grown up in a white society and you’re not white. There are a myriad of reasons why you might feel undermined and not powerful. However,

No one can make you feel inferior without your own consent

Eleanor Rooselevelt

I love that quote. It is so true. The current state of play re gender equality and diversity can lead to a sense of us feeling besieged. Women of my age can feel like little has changed and get despondent. Younger women may feel what is the point, “I am just a lone voice.” We can feel like victims to whom these unfair and ridiculous things are done unto, what we earn, what we look like, what jobs are ‘appropriate’, how we behave. I know, I’ve been there.

But, fortunately, I have the privilege of working with some wonderful women who continue to inspire and amaze me. Women of all ages, colours, and creeds. If we think we can’t do anything about the status quo we are letting go of our power. If we let the biases and *misogny get to us we are letting go of our power. As we let go of our power, our confidence goes and we become small and unheard. Hold onto your power.

Yes, I acknowledge, that’s easy for me to say, a white woman who runs her own business and is, by and large, in control of her own destiny. As a working class girl who grew up in a poor, multi cultural community, I am well aware of my own privilege. However, should that silence me? Should it stop any of us speaking up for women and women’s rights everywhere and anytime we can? If it does, I am giving away my power. And I refuse to do that.

Speak up when you see an injustice being done. Support other women in your community or office. Informally coach or mentor young women at your your work. Suspend automatic judgement of other women’s choices in life. Empathise with those who think differently from you. However small the act seems, you can make a difference.

Bad stuff will keep happening and bad stuff needs challenging. Not alway by us, that may not be possible every time. Much of it we cannot control. However, there is one area where we can take some control. We can control our thoughts and our responses. We can recognise the insidious messages about women we get daily. We can make a choice about how we respond to the c**p that life throws at us. Once we recognise what is happening and deal with it mentally, we stop being victims. We become powerful.

All of us have a role to play, however small it may seem to us now. And once we make that choice we grow in confidence and power. Little steps, eventually lead to big changes.

I have shared the photo above before and I make no apologies for sharing again. I absolutely love it. It’s of a group of women who work for a legal firm in South Africa. Someone there, on her own initiative, has become a RenewYou trainer because she wants to empower her colleagues. I had two photos, one more formal, holding certificates and their journals, but this one lifts my spirits every time. They epitomise for me the spirit of RenewYou; it’s all about being true to yourself and fulfilling your potential. On your terms. Being a woman of power.

By the way, you don’t have to travel to South Africa to experience RenewYou. I’m running two courses in Bristol in the Autumn. See the details here.

*Definition of Misoygny:Misogyny (/mɪˈsɒdʒɪni/) is the hatred of, contempt for, or prejudice against women or girls. Misogyny can be manifested in numerous ways, including social exclusion, sex discrimination, hostility, androcentrism, patriarchy, male privilege, belittling of women, violence against women, and sexual objectification.
Picture courtesy of the ‘Jygers Rant blog.’


Posted on August 2nd, 2017 by

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