9 Etiquette Tips for Women On The Way Up

I was browsing again through my copy of  ‘A Woman’s Place is in the Boardroom’ by Peninah Thomson & Jacey Graham  (Palgrave Macmillan) when I came across the chapter on using personal power and charm.  I really like their 9 etiquette points and thought I’d share A woman's place is in the boardroomthem with you:

  1. Write those ‘thank you’ letters for help given to you or kindness shown to you.

  2. Don’t inadvertently be rude. Don’t just observe the courtesies; be courteous and well mannered always.

  3. Try to be tactful.

  4. Do not be sarcastic or sardonic.

  5. Show respect for others by being punctual: being late is a theft of other people’s time. (So agree with this one-hate being late myself or hanging around waiting for people who are habitually late. It’s like saying, “My time is so much more important than yours”.)

  6. Return phone calls and emails as promptly as possible.

  7. Treat others with respect as human beings. ( JCW: When job interviewing, if my admin staff said applicant had ignored them or been brusque it coloured my judgement greatly!)

  8. If you feel you’re being attacked or patronised don’t respond in kind. Wait for the second beat , and deal with the comment in an adult to adult manner. (JCW: Yep, don’t let that inner child start stamping her feet.)

  9. Show genuine empathy for others and the issues they’re facing; be supportive, but not intrusive. (JCW: I learned when working with offenders that you can show empathy without condoning or endorsing behaviour.)

I particularly like the book as the authors share my own strongly view: to achieve anything you have to be true to yourself. Don’t try and take on the norms and values of any prevailing ‘male’ culture. Just be you. (JCW: I’ve a blog on this here – To Thine Own Self Be True)

‘A Woman’s Place’ was published in 2008 but is still very relevant, sadly, and still available.

“Good manners have much to do with the emotions. To make them ring true, one must feel them, not merely exhibit them.”
― Amy Vanderbilt

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Posted on February 28th, 2014 by

One Response to “9 Etiquette Tips for Women On The Way Up”

  1. Some great advice, Jane. Two others I thought I’d share that have been recurring themes at various seminars and conferences, and that also reflect my own experiences are: (i) never be afraid to address “the elephant in the room” – that difficult issue that people shy away from bringing to the table; and (ii) “pay forwards” – if you can regularly do something that helps another woman – or man – it will come back, and helps to build that vital depth of pipeline at lower levels of women with the talent, attitude and confidence to aspire to the Board!

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