What Every Woman Needs to Know about Confidence

Confidence is such an elusive concept. How do you define something so intangible? (That’s both a rhetorical and an actual question! I’d love to know what you think!)

I’ve written many times about women and confidence as it’s often  a feature of my coaching with women. Some days we’re brimful of it; others it simply deserts us.

And once we start to feel a lack of confidence it can become all consuming. We begin to focus so much on it that we soon become enmeshed in a downward spiral and can think of little else but our lack of confidence. Making us feel less confident…

Be More Confident

A survey by Gallop found that people were happiest at work when they had an opportunity to do what they did best every day.

Research into coping with depression and stress has found that focussing on the negatives in life does not lift the depression; you know you can make yourself feel miserable by thinking about something miserable in your life.

On the plus side you can make yourself feel brighter by thinking about something good in your life. Try it now. A famous sports photographer said he gets his subjects to think about the time they won a great competition and than snaps away as he sees that sparkle come into their features. Think about a good time in your life, when you felt confident and in control.

You can make yourself feel more confident by doing something you are good at! When the dip strikes don’t spend ages beating yourself up up about it or struggling to find a cause. Nip it in the bud as fast as you can by doing something that makes you feel good, that gives you a boost. And then in that frame of mind, go back and take a fresh look at your issue and you’ll see it from an entirely fresh perspective. You might not be able to see it at all.

RenewYou Women’s Course

If you’d like to spend a whole day with me looking at your life from a positive perspective and learn techniques to increase your confidence come and join me in Bristol on my Renewyou course!

And if you have your own techniques and tips to keep your confidence high, please share them with us!

Photo Credit: Katarzina Lipinska


Posted on July 18th, 2011 by

3 Responses to “What Every Woman Needs to Know about Confidence”

  1. I tend to be a naturally confident person (annoying I know!) but sometimes it does evade me and I begin to doubt myself and my abilities. To help I think carefully of who I have become and of all the good, and bad points in my past who have made me who I am. Im not perfect .. but Im happy with me .. and then I realise that it doesn’t matter what others think, only what I think! (does that make sense?)

    • Jane says:

      Absolutely! We all have a dip at times, and you’re right. We have to like and respect ourselves first.

  2. Jayne M Cox says:

    Absolutely right Jane, we can nip the dips in the bud! Also by learning to recognise the signs early on, we really will have a new and valuable tool when the dip approaches in the future.

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