Make Your Negative Positive & Boost Your Confidence!

Childhood Beliefs

We all hold thoughts and beliefs in our head that have their roots in our childhood. We will have absorbed messages over the years from significant people in our lives.

Some of these messages are great and help us live our lives to the maximum. If you had a parent or significant adult, for example, who always told you to give it a go and encouraged you to try new things, you are probably pretty good at doing just that.

On the other hand, if you had a parent who was always fearful for your safety, not allowing you to take even small risks, you may ‘hear’ that message in your head each time you try to attempt something new. ‘Stick with what you know’, or ‘No good will come of it’.

On my RENEWYOU course I have a personal development exercise in helping people understand what these messages might be. I call it ‘Internal mail – save or delete?’ You could try it now.

Spend a few moments thinking what messages you have internalised over the years. If you find it difficult to recall, keep a note pad by you for a day and jot them down as they come into your mind. What is your default thinking? Don’t forget to include the good as well as the not so good, and try not to judge whoever brought you up; they were doing the best they could and none of us are perfect!

Review Your List

Once you have your list in front of you spend a few moments deciding which ones you want to keep. Now look at those you could well do without – the ones that hold you back, keep you down and sap your energy. These are very powerful influences on your behaviour but the good news is that you can reverse their effect!

If we want to change our habits we need to replace the old habit with a new one. So it is with negative thoughts. Challenge your negative thinking with positive thoughts. For more advice on how to do this take a look at the post linked below on positive thoughts. You’ll have to practise them a few times but it will work!

And maybe you’d like to share how you get on? It’s always great to hear from you.


Posted on March 19th, 2009 by

2 Responses to “Make Your Negative Positive & Boost Your Confidence!”

  1. Caroline Pickford says:

    Bet you had a fantastic childhood message, otherwise you would not have been blessed with such wisdom of words! Well done your Mum and Dad say I.

    • Jane says:

      Ah thank you Caroline! I always knew I was loved and that goes a long long way! My two rules for kids are:1) love them unconditionally (but not their bad behaviour) and 2) let them know what is going on in an age appropriate way, and they will probably survive anything! Nice of you to take time to comment! Thanks.

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