Motherhood, Nature & Music

A while ago I wrote a post featuring Alice Herz-Sommer. I recently heard that Alice is still alive, (107 last birthday), still lives alone in her London flat and continues to practise piano for two and a half hours every day. There’s an advert for the power of music and application!

I wrote about this remarkable woman in a piece on change, how people adapt and survive. Alice, a Jew, had survived the concentration camps but more than that had established a remarkable career as a concert pianist and shown no trace of bitterness at all. No hate. “Everything is a present“.

There have been many interviews with her and a best selling book; you can see a BBC one here. If you have time, I recommend that you take a look for she is truly inspirational. If I am feeling a bit fed up about something inconsequential, I only have to think of her to find my mood changing. Her philosophy on life is truly humbling and wonderful.

Meaning of Life

Alice has her own take on spirituality or religion and she describes it thus:

• the love of a mother for her child
• the beauty and wonder of nature
• music.

We can’t all be mothers or musicians, but we can all appreciate the beauty of nature. Whether you are in the city or the countryside, take a look around you and wonder at nature. Lift your spirits and let an amazing woman inspire you today!

Alice’s biography, A Garden of Eden, is in all good libraries, bookshops and via Amazon

Do You Believe People Can Change?

Do you believe people can change? My whole career has been built on the principle that, yes, they can! It’s not easy but it happens all the time.

It is important to believe that it’s possible though or you will be stuck with the same patterns of behaviour for ever. Which is fine, if it’s working for you but not so fine if you are feeling fed up and disgruntled with the hand life has dealt you.

Life Story

When I worked with youngsters who had experienced trauma and loss in their short lives, we frequently made a life story book, looking at the significant events of their lives. Usually these kids had had no control over what happened to them and many of them had had experiences you wouldn’t wish on your worst enemy. The life story work had many purposes, but one was to help them understand that they could take back some control of their lives in the future and not see themselves as helpless victims of their past.

Don’t Get Stuck

I often work with people who have had a difficult life by any standards. Some are stuck, feeling that they can’t throw this off; their early experiences of life are continuing to haunt and inform everything they do. Conversely, I have been privileged to work with some amazing people who have had equally devastating experiences but have made a decision not to let this ruin the rest of their lives, and to use it in a positive fashion. They have let the negative experiences make them stronger.

Survivors

I am struck by this survivor mentality most forcibly when I read accounts of holocaust survivors. People who endured unimaginable tragedy yet went on to have amazing lives, made films, made music, wrote great literature. One such inspirational woman was Alice Herz-Sommer whose story I read in The Guardian newspaper in 2006. She was 103 at the time!

Alice had endured the ghettos in Prague, lost her husband in Auschwitz along with many members of her family yet when interviewed she showed no trace of bitterness. She had gone on to become a gifted concert pianist and at 103 was still playing for several hours a day.

She said:

” I never spoke a word about it….I didn’t want my son to grow up with hatred in his heart…….my son had very good friends in Germany.

I had a twin sister – same mother, same father, same upbringing. She was extremely gifted but a terrible pessimist, but I was the contrary. This is the reason I am so old, even now, I am sure. I am looking for the nice things in life. I know about the bad things, but I only look for the good things.

Life is beautiful, extremely beautiful. And when you are old you appreciate it more. When you are older you think, you remember, you care and you appreciate. You are thankful for everything. For everything.”

She was the absolute embodiment of my favourite quote of all time, from a first century BC Stoic philosopher, Epictetus. In essence he said:

WE ARE NOT TOUCHED SO MUCH BY LIFE’S EVENTS, BUT BY THE VIEW WE CHOOSE TO TAKE OF THEM.

Therein lies the underlying message of every self help book ever written!

You can read an  article on Alice in full by clicking here