Friday Coffee Break Tip 1

Posted on May 30th, 2014 by - 1 comment

Coffee lady by Pambot

If you ever find yourself having difficulty in being assertive at work try this:

Don’t say anything, simply listen.

I know it’s counter intuitive but if you are having difficulty in saying what you want to say, and being heard, my guess is that when the other person is speaking, your mind will be busy thinking (or panicking) about your riposte. Take the pressure off yourself and just listen, respectfully and in silence.

Try not to nod too much while listening as men generally nod when they agree and women when they understand. If you are talking with a man he is likely to interpret your nodding as agreement making it harder to accept what you say next in disagreement.

When it is your turn to speak, say something like”Can I just check out I have understood?” and then paraphrase what they have just said to you.

This gives you thinking time and also allows them to correct any misunderstanding; it will also highlight if what has been said is unreasonable, or rude.

Happy Week end!

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To Ms or Not to Ms?

Posted on May 28th, 2014 by - 4 comments

Even after all these years giving your title as Ms can still raise a few eyebrows. I’ve been Ms since I discovered the term, way back in the seventies. I could never understand why only women had to publicly declare their marital status, although clearly the answer is tied up with women becoming their husband’s property on marriage etc. Along with so many things I assumed it would be in standard use by now and forms, documents etc, would just

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How Can We Stop Sexism Without Demeaning Young Men?

Posted on May 26th, 2014 by - 2 comments

I finally got around to watching the BBC show Blurred Lines on sexist attitudes in Britain today. It made for depressing viewing. Kirsty Wark has made a documentary about attitudes towards women in 2014 and frankly I was shocked. I didn’t expect to be; I thought I pretty much had a handle on what went on but there were elements of that programme that shocked and saddened me. What shocked me most was a Grand Theft Auto Game where points

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Different But No Less Equal

Posted on May 23rd, 2014 by - 0 comments

This post has been prompted by some derogatory comments I overheard about transgender people following the recent Eurovison song contest (watch the video above). I really don’t understand the antipathy to transgender people: man to woman, woman to man, it matters not, but there is such a reaction to the way we look. Dare to stray from the norms and you’re in trouble, and women in the public eye know that better than most. In one of the department stores

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A New App to Encourage Girls into Traditonal Male Areas of Work? It gets my vote!

Posted on May 22nd, 2014 by - 3 comments

Twitter is an amazing thing; sometimes it drives you to distraction (think trolls and vile comments) and other times it introduces you to some really interesting people and ideas. Happily most of the time I am on the latter end of the spectrum and have ‘met’ some really interesting people. One such person is Hunter Bann who contacted me via Twitter and asked me to vote for her app. Hunter, 26, is a first year design student with the *Open

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Are You Pinteresting…?

Posted on May 21st, 2014 by - 0 comments

I am a bit of a latecomer to Pinterest. If you haven’t yet encountered it, this is how Wikipedia describes it: Pinterest is a visual discovery tool that people use to collect ideas for their different projects and interests. People create and share collections (called “boards”) of visual bookmarks (called “Pins”) that they use to do things like plan trips and projects, organize events or save articles and recipes. The site was founded by Ben Silbermann, Paul Sciarra and Evan

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