How to Make Your Dream Come True!

Posted on October 16th, 2013 by - 3 comments

I have to apologise right now if a slightly smug tone pervades this post. I don’t think I feel smug; I do feel very happy but you know, when you write things down it can sound wrong…

Jane & TrainersAs to why I’m happy, more of that later. First a question for you. Do you have a long held, cherished dream? It’s a question I often ask when I’m running groups and women usually say yes.

If you do, take it out and look at it from time to time. Now is a good time! Really examine your dream in from all angles and ask yourself the following questions:

  • Is this really something I want to do or a means of escape from something I don’t like doing at the moment?
  • If it’s something I really want to do what am I doing every day to make it happen?
  • Do I know what steps I need to take in order to make my dream a reality?
  • Do I use my dream to take refuge in from the rigours of everyday life?
  • Can I close my eyes now and see myself living that dream?

Of all the women I meet who have achieved their dreams not one of them has won the lottery. Despite that often being the default answer, winning the lottery rarely makes unhappy people happy. Research shows a year later they are about as unhappy as they ever were, albeit in comfort.

What they have in common is that they have made their dreams a reality and they have worked very hard to get there. Luck rarely has had anything to do with it. They may have got ‘noticed’ at some stage but that’s because they have put themselves in a good place to take advantage of opportunities.

Their dreams have varied, from moving to France and becoming almost self sufficient (my ex PA, Vicki, did that), to making a real difference in the field of social care (my close friend, Sue, did that) to getting a qualification and taking themselves higher in their chosen field ( I know loads of women who have done that).

The point is you have to start somewhere and you have to do something.

This week.

Do it.

Work out what your first step needs to be (looking up on line prices of houses in France and finding out what your house is worth, for example).

Make a plan, follow the plan (not slavishly, be flexible), mark off the small achievements and then one day you’ll realise you’ve done it! That is the way dreams can come true. You have to take charge of yourself.

And Why I Am So Happy?

Well, some time ago I had a dream of doing something much more helpful than the management role I was in. 10 years ago in fact (I didn’t say York Women Oct 13dreams happen overnight). I had begun my career as a social worker with a burning desire to help people, particularly women who I felt had much to contend with in our society. For a while I probably did help in some ways and ran groups for women in violent situations, in psychiatric hospital and so on, but as you progress it feels that the bureaucracy and organisational machine takes over. The ability to make a real difference felt like it was eluding me and I grew increasingly frustrated. As did many of my colleagues. In fact, it was quite comforting to just moan together about our lot and it made us a group. A group of moaners. And you know what happens when you do a lot of something? It gets bigger and assumes a greater importance than it should.

I didn’t only moan though. I’d written a paper about the lack of women in any senior posts in my organisation as part of a management qualification. That had blossomed into a women’s group which in turn meant that we accessed some training we might not otherwise have had as the organisation (all credit to them) took on the findings of the report.

With hindsight it was probably as a direct result of that report that I had the opportunity to do a residential course which gave me time to think about my career. I realised that little would change unless I made it change and that it was down to me to take control. For me, that control meant leaving the security of my job at age 48 and branching out on my own. When pushed, I admitted that my dream was to achieve a lifestyle where I had more time at home but was doing something meaningful to make people’s lives better. (I know, I sound like Pollyanna, but it’s true!)

London 2013As time went on that dream evolved into working directly with women to improve their lives. And my adventure began.

In March of this year I began a new project to get my RenewYou course out to a million women! It sounds unachievable and on my own it certainly is ( I think I’ve managed a few hundred so far by myself)  Last Monday I licensed 9 lovely women in central London to deliver that course and that brought my total to 27 excellent women across the UK personally trained by me to deliver RenewYou. I have another licensing event running in December in Bristol with 6 events scheduled for next year.

An unexpected bonus is the community of supportive women trainers we are creating. I am on top of the world; I am working with some great women and helping them to develop their own businesses by helping other women achieve their dreams ( I warned you this might sound smug!) If you’d told me 10 years ago this is where I’d be now I wouldn’t have believed you. I followed my own advice and I took charge.

And so can you.

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10 Career Tips for Women – Number 5

Posted on October 12th, 2013 by - 1 comment

Number 5 – Negotiate Your Salary and Don’t Be Embarrassed If you’re employed, someone is paying you (if you’re self employed one hopes that is true too but it’ll be several people paying you!) The evidence is incontrovertible, men get higher pay than women. I’m sure that you’d agree this is wrong. There are a myriad of reasons but one of them is that women simply don’t ask for enough at the negotiation stage. Resolve not to be one of

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Whoopidoodah! The BBC has TWO Women on it’s Flagship News Show. Only took them until 2013!

Posted on October 10th, 2013 by - 2 comments

Well, women got the vote in 1918 (or over 21s in 1928) and yet the BBC still make news in 2013 by actually having two women for the very first time presenting its flagship radio news programme, Today. Whoopidoodah BBC…perhaps. Is it a cause of celebration or one for scornful laughter. I can’t quite decide. I interviewed Sarah Montague, one of Today’s presenters and until this month the only female one, and she told me that the Today newsroom is

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Women – 51% of the Population But Where Are They? The female cloak of invisibilty…

Posted on October 9th, 2013 by - 0 comments

But women make up only… 22.5% of members of the UK parliament 15.6% of High Court judges 10% of bank CEOs 5% of national newspaper editors 0% of the bank of England Monetary Committee It’s unbelievable but it explains a lot.   Source: The Fawcett Society Thinking of expanding your training business? Are you passionate about empowering women? I have a brilliant opportunity for you! To find out more, click here.

10 Career Tips for Women – Number 4

Posted on October 2nd, 2013 by - 0 comments

Number 4 – Network Like BillyHo Never mind the old boys’ network (although you just have to look at senior posts, including the UK Government to see how well that works), we’re thinking about your network! Take a few minutes to think about how many people you know and how many areas of influence you have. That doesn’t mean seniority; I’ve been in roles where my influence has far outweighed my actual position in an organisation. I have to confess

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10 Career Tips for Women – Number 3

Posted on September 30th, 2013 by - 0 comments

Number Three – Resolve to Speak Up Women are usually credited with being good communicators, with high emotional intelligence. Yet it seems to be a commonly held idea that women talk too much. Researchers looked at a huge selection of business meetings and at the end asked everyone as they left who talked the most. The men said ‘the women’. They asked the women and they said ‘we did’. The researchers said actually the men talked most in those meetings,

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