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Silent Movies Are Back – For Women At Least!

Sometimes I think we’re going backwards, I really do. In the long slow path to achieving gender equality it often feels like one step forward, two steps back. (Sound of heavy sighing from me).

Marguerite De La Motte Silent moviesThere have been some brilliant films  featuring women in strong leading roles. One of my favourites was ‘Bridesmaids’ because it was very funny, but also because women were the main characters and, despite it being about a wedding, at no time were we treated to the ‘I’m too fat, too thin, will he love me?‘ sort of vapid dialogue that often accompanies the genre. And the women were all sorts of sizes and shapes and it was not a matter for comment at all. Plus, (if you’ve seen the film you’ll know what I’m talking about here) they were normal women who had normal type catastrophes which women aren’t usually meant to have – on screen at least! Hugely refreshing.

This month, May 2013, a new report was released by the University of Southern California which revealed that speaking roles for women have fallen to their lowest level in five years.  And if that weren’t bad enough, those females that do get a look in are most likely to be teenagers portrayed in a sexualised manner. Good grief! What are we doing???

Among the highest grossing 2012 films at the US box office  28.4% of the 4,475 speaking characters were female. This is a fall of 32.8% from three years ago. Only 6% of the of the top earning films in 2012 featured a balanced cast, which is defined by the study as females in at least 45% of all speaking roles. When they do get on the screen 31.6% of women were depicted wearing sexually revealing clothing, the highest percentage in the last 5 years.

This doesn’t surprise me in the least. I have recently been ‘forced’ to watch Da Vinci’s Demons courtesy of Fox TV. (Forced because my husband was an extra in it). Despite opening with the wonderful Hugh Bonneville (who very sensibly died within the opening 10 minutes) it is a paean to the 70s; I have rarely seen anything featuring so much gratuitous nudity of women. It’s almost unbelievable, virtually every scene will have a woman with her chest bared, even if she’s a nun! It matters not to the plot, sometimes they’ll just be in the background. The only real female character of any note is a mistress so of course she rarely keeps her clothes on and is led by the actions of the men. Oh and of course, she is fickle. It’s like going back 30 years. I do not recommend it on any level (apart from very brief glimpses of my clothed husband, of course).

This may seem like a triviality in the grand scheme of things but it does matter.  It matters how women are portrayed in the media; it matters to both genders. No wonder report after report says women lack confidence, look at the role models we’re giving our youth, both genders. Thirty years ago this portrayal of women in the media was commonplace. Just over 31 years ago I had my first child, a daughter. I really thought she would be growing up in a different world.

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Picture of silent movie actress, Marguerite de la Motte courtesy of GoldenSilents.com

Sarah Montague – Inspirational Woman!

Sarah Montague is one of the reasons I am an ardent fan of the BBC radio 4 news programme Today; I feel I know her well as her voice is often the first to float into my consciousness in the morning. She is the only female presenter out of a team of five, which must be interesting at times.

Sarah Montague 2Sarah’s BBC career began as a presenter with the launch of BBC News 24 but she had an interesting career path before she arrived at journalism which I hope we’ll hear a bit more about.

Jane: Sarah, thanks so much for taking the time to talk, particularly as you must get up at silly o clock most week days! I know you rarely give interviews so am doubly pleased to be talking with you today.
First, can you tell us something about your career pre BBC? How did you end up at the BBC?
Sarah: Well, I kept getting sacked from my other jobs! I did a biology degree at university and had thought about medicine as a career but didn’t fancy 5 or 6 years of training. I knew I wanted to do something that made a difference but I didn’t have an actual plan and I wasn’t sure at all of what I wanted to do when I was studying.

My first job was in the City where I lasted a year, and then I took up a job with Charles Tyrwhitt, the ‘shirt man.’ The company has since gone from strength to strength but back then there were just 3 of us. This was in 1991. My friend, Nick Wheeler, who set up the company, sacked me and we fell out very badly. We didn’t speak for a while but we’re friends now; in fact, he always claims the credit for my success saying if he hadn’t got rid of me I wouldn’t have ended up at the BBC!

It was after leaving Tyrwhitt’s that I decide journalism was for me; I went back home to Guernsey reasoning that it would be relatively easy to get a start there. I approached the local radio station and offered to do anything. I thought they’d take me to make the coffee but actually they didn’t want me at all. However, the local TV station did offer me a post, albeit in 2 week contracts, but I ended up staying there 3 years and gained a lot of experience of reporting and live broadcasting.

I moved to London as a freelancer and had jobs with Reuters, the news agency, and Sky broadcasting in their news and business departments. In 1997 I became the first voice on BBC News 24, the BBC’s first rolling news channel. That was a lot of fun!
After that the BBC used me on quite a few different programmes like Newsnight and BBC breakfast.

Newsnight always strikes me as a very women friendly programme; how did you find it?
The whole of the BBC seemed woman-friendly after Sky – at least at that stage. I remember arriving and thinking how different the atmosphere was and then realising that about half the room were women. When I was at Sky it was a very much more male environment.

That’s also true of Today; despite my being the only female presenter there are a lot of women working behind the scenes. It’s not the male locker room mentality that people sometimes assume it must be.

I spoke about it recently at the *BBC’s Academy  Expert Women’s day which is a good initiative to encourage more women experts into TV and radio. {*The initiative continues to seek out specialists in editorial subject areas that programme makers say they have trouble finding female experts in. }

What was your very first broadcast?
I was given the opportunity to go out and interview someone by a colleague. Looking back I suspect it was something he didn’t actually want to do, and thought wouldn’t get aired, but it did get aired. I went home from that first interview and I was flying! I loved it. After that it felt like I leaned against a door and it opened for me. I was impatient and ambitious to move on. Finding what you love is just great.

People in the public eye can get a lot of criticism as well as plaudits. Sheryl Sandberg in ‘Lean In’ says women need to toughen up as if you try to please everyone all of the time you can’t be doing a good job. Does criticism bother you much?
I have developed a thicker skin over the years but I’d be lying if I said it didn’t bother me at all. I think it bothers the men as well. I’m often criticised for interrupting but when you only have a three minute slot sometimes you just have to. It is frustrating when politicians and others blatantly don’t engage with the questions asked but it’s my job to try and get some new information and not just accept the rehearsed message
But yes, you do have to set yourself apart a little and try to ignore the trolls.

The Today programme means very, very early starts. How do you cope with that? Having children did manage to turn me Sarah-Montague & at BBCfrom an owl to a lark but I notice as I’m getting older I’m reverting to my owly type. Are you naturally a lark?
No! I hate it when the alarm goes off! I am most definitely not a lark. But the upside of this job is that I am finished with my formal work at 10.am. I still have research etc to do but I can fit that in around my own times. It means I can do my share of the school pick ups. If you have an interesting and challenging job it inevitably means lots of hours; being on the Today works really well with the kids.

You’ve had some interesting assignments recently on Today. (We’ll get to Robert Redford in a minute!) How do you deal with some of the terribly sad and unjust things you see and report on?
I try to maintain the old fashioned BBC line of staying impartial but sometimes you just can’t. And sometimes I think it would be inappropriate not to show some reaction – we’re only human. Presenters are now encouraged to show a bit more of themselves and their personality but it’s a fine line. Passion is generally a good thing.

Who has been the most interesting/challenging/exciting person you’ve interviewed? Have you had any personal heroes in front of you?
Often the most challenging interviews are when you have someone in front of you who you know really knows their stuff, but nerves are preventing them sharing it; they become monosyllabic and tongue tied. You know you need to give them a bit of time but you also need to hear what they’ve been invited on to discuss. That can be tricky.

I don’t really have any personal heroes, although I did interview Robert Redford recently. I rang my Mum up to tell her that was coming! He was lovely but we had only 8 minutes and he’d been doing loads of interviews. He was very professional, listened well and answered my questions. But I’d really love to do a ‘hard talk’ with him, say 25 minutes as he is a very interesting character.

Occasionally you do interview people you’ve admired and think “Oh I wish I hadn’t actually met them” but more often it’s not about finding feet of clay rather more discovering people you had a preconceived idea about actually have hidden depths and are fascinating to talk with.

The trouble with live TV/radio is that all one’s inevitable mistakes are quite public. Have you ever had an experience like that live where you’d like to be able rewind?
Oh Yes! Almost every day! You always think I could have done that better. One of my worst mistakes was when I was pregnant and had what I call a ‘preghead’ moment. I was presenting a programme with Allan Little. It was towards the end of the show and I was drifting off a bit. I suddenly realised there was a silence and so I launched into the next item. Except it was only a pause; Alan had just asked his interviewee a question and he was pausing a while before replying! That was very embarrassing.

There was another not so long ago. It was before Christmas and we were having a discussion on the Today programme about how we know things exist, a very existential debate. I chipped in with ‘Well, we do all invent things, take Father Christmas for example…’ I was inundated with tweets and calls chastising me for ruining Christmas for the children etc, so I tried to make amends by adding at the end of the programme that I had made a mistake and of course, Father Christmas existed, but I think I actually made it worse by drawing attention to it!

Later, I was in the car with my 6 year old when the clip was played on the radio and my daughter turned to me in horror and said: “Mummy, you didn’t really say that, did you?”
(For purposes of clarification, of course Father Christmas exists, Jane.)

Do you have a role model, someone who has inspired you throughout the years?
No, I don’t have any role models at all. I often read interviews where people list their role models and I wonder why I don’t but I just don’t. I’ve never actually wanted to be like anyone else. No heroes.

On a more personal note, who or what keeps you going when times are hard, and celebrates with you when times are good?
That’s my family! I have three daughters and a wonderful stepdaughter. She’s 16 and my three are 6, 9, and 10 but it’s getting much easier now they’re older, Jane. At one point it felt like a struggle, juggling pregnancy, small children and presenting but now it’s much easier. And there seem more time to relax and unwind with the family.

What advice would you give to any women wanting to follow in your footsteps?
Oh that’s a hard one. I think I’d say if it’s something you’re passionate about and you really want it you’ll get there. Being willing to do anything in my chosen field worked for me, although I appreciate that it’s much harder now; I was lucky, I was paid for everything I did. Make the coffee, get on with folk and make it easy for them to hire you. Also I think social media opens up lots of avenues now.

If you could have an alternative dream career (anything) what would it be?
Something completely different – I’d like to know how to restore old furniture. I think it’s about taking something that’s all bashed up and making it beautiful again.

Sarah, thanks so much for sharing your thoughts with us today, particularly as it was post broadcast and your early start! I hope your career continues to go from strength to strength. Thank you.

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Photos from BBC

Make a Mess to Improve

We’re in the middle of a bit of decorating at the moment, not a massive project, just sorting out one of the bedrooms but blimey what a mess!  Every callie on office sofaroom in the house seems to have something from that wee room in it, even the cats are discombobulated! As I write this my office sofa is covered with the contents of the linen cupboard. It’s become a full time job keeping one of the cats off it – it’s her regular sleeping place when I’m working. I’ve failed miserably as you can see…

I know the mess will drive me bonkers after a while and I will wish I never started. However, I also know that when it’s finished I will be really pleased and feel that it was all worth it.

Which is like any change we make isn’t it? A bit of chaos/mess/upsetting the old way of doing things is usually required to get where we want to be.

We just need to keep motivated by focussing on the end result.  You can’t make an omelette without cracking eggs and you can’t make significant, positive change in your life without a bit of chaos. We can’t always be in control but if we know where we’re we’re going it makes the inevitable bit of muddle bearable, possibly even enjoyable. At least, if you’re a cat!

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Why Does ‘Respecting Cultural Issues’ usually mean ‘Women Have Few Rights’? Time to Stop?

In the UK there have been a spate of arrests, court cases etc involving the sexual abuse of women and girls. Sometimes it’s almost unbearable to read the news. This morning was no exception.

The excellent journalist Grace Dent writing for The Independent had a piece on the Oxfordshire sexual abuse scandal (read it here). If you read it you’ll see she highlights the issue of people being fearful of challenging certain practices in case they are accused of not respecting other people’s cultures. This was certainly a feature in the Oxfordshire case where young girls (sometimes as young as 11) were first groomed, then raped by paedophiles and used and abused by gangs of men for very long periods of time.

Coincidentally I was talking about this ‘cultural issue’ a few days ago to a group of women I was working with. I shared with them that as a young girl growing up in an area where there were a lot of Asian men I had regularly been verbally abused at in the street because I was wearing a mini skirt and deemed to be a shameless hussy (I’m imagining that’s what they were saying to me). I hated it. My best friend at the time was from an Asian family; at 15 she was married off and forbidden by her new, much older, husband to see me or any of her old friends again. Not just her surname changed but her first name too. I never did see her again.

After University I went on to train as a social worker and struggled womanfully with the notion that these differing attitudes to women were cultural and under no circumstances should I voice my concerns out loud if I wanted to pass my course. It would be considered racist to do so. It’s probably worth pointing out that at that time (early 1980s) the UK as a whole wasn’t quite so hot on the treating women with respect thing either.

So what do you think? Is it racist to be appalled at the way women are treated? Is it a cultural issue where we should fear to tread? Is it because we are frightened of being accused of racism that some of these appalling acts can go on for so long unchallenged or discretely ignored? Or is it that women and girls are still seen by a large proportion of society as second class citizens, easy prey, and that the inherent sexism and class snobbery in our society allows this to happen?

What do you think?

No picture today, seemed a bit inappropriate…

Advice From a Tree

Not my usual type of post but I just loved this and I hope you do too. I’m not usually given to hugging trees but you know, I just might! Thanks to Ilan Shamir and to Trisha Barnes for sending it to me via Facebook

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Rebecca Caine – Inspirational Woman

In an alternative life I might have pursued a singing career or at least a career on stage (I live vicariously through my actor son now!) so I love it when I get to meet women who are doing just that. Rebecca Caine is one such talented woman. She was born in Toronto and studied at the Guildhall School of music and unusually has a career singing in both opera and cabaret.

Rebecca CaineJane: Rebecca, I’m so pleased to be talking to you properly at last! (We tweet usually, only 140 characters). As a young girl were you always a performer? Do you remember your first ‘public’ performance?
Rebecca:  I decided to be a singer at age 6 after seeing Carmen.  A brief flirtation with becoming an astronaut after the moon landings came to nothing as I didn’t have the maths.

When did you move from Canada to the UK? Was that a difficult move for you?
Actually although I was born in Toronto and am a Canadian, I grew in the states. First Baltimore and then Princeton. My father was an academic.

After a family schism I ended up in London at 16 with my mother and sister. They returned to the USA after a year but it was decided that I should drop out of High School and enter the Guildhall school of Music. My mother was born here so I had right of abode.

No, it wasn’t very easy. London in the 70s was grim and I was a pretty awkward kid.The culture shock was huge. I’d been brought up as an English child in the US, my mother was odd about letting us assimilate so I felt very out of place initially.

What was your very first professional performance on the stage? Do you remember how much you were paid?
Back in the day one had to get an Equity card and after I’d dropped out of the Guildhall at 19 I joined a small opera company that had one to give away. I’m not sure what I was paid but I think it was probably about £50 a performance. My first role was Despina in Cosi fan Tutte.

I am assuming that you have had periods in your career of ‘resting’.  Do you have a back up career for those times? What other jobs have you done?
I was very lucky. Because I was both an opera singer and a musical theatre actor I got a lot of work.

Also, there was only a very small pool of actors in musicals then so it was pretty easy. I’ve only once done a “real” job.

After I got West Side Story my agent turned it down as I couldn’t do a years contract: I’d been contracted to go to Glyndebourne Opera for my chorus year.

I fired my agent but still had to go to Glyndebourne where Trevor Nunn saw me and asked me to do Les Mis so I guess it happened for a reason!
I didn’t know it at the time of course so that Christmas instead of playing Maria I grumpily sold knickers in Selfridges. That was the only real job I’ve done. I teach a bit now.

How did you get your first break?
My singing teacher’s agent rang me and asked if I’d like to go up for the role of Laurey in Oklahoma! in the West End.
I got it. It was my second job.

What’s the best piece of advice you have ever been given?
I’m really not sure. Whatever it was I was bound to have ignored it!

I was very head strong and made an enormous amount of mistakes, brushed a lot of people up the wrong way, I reeked Diva, mistakenly I think.
Insecurity comes over as arrogance, I see it in my students.  So I was a very shy and nervous person but came over as the opposite.
Also, I was very much on my own for some years here at a young age in a time where we only picked up a phone in an emergency. I didn’t have a support system or anyone to really advise me as my family were not in the country and I was so young. I wish I’d had more guidance and advice.

My grandfather’s advice to my dad when he left home was “Don’t play cards with strangers”  I’ll go with that.

What’s the most challenging thing about your chosen career?
Everything!

  • Learning a physical skill such as singing is an ongoing thing that ever stops.
  • Dealing with rejection.
  • Dealing with success.
  • Life balance.
  • Reinvention as one gets older.
  • Figuring out why you do what you do.

Because I left Guildhall so young I learned everything on the job. That certainly was a challenge when I moved into opera. I am not brilliant at languages and had to work very hard at that. I even did roles in Czech.   It was hard graft but enjoyable.

Rebecca Caine 2I’m happiest now as a singer than I’ve ever been and I’m comfortable in my skin. I now sing for myself, for the joy of it.  After 33 years I am more and more astounded by what a gift it is and what a joyous thing. It doesn’t have to be for an audience. It can be just a few hours in my studio thrashing through an aria and figuring out how sing it technically.

And what’s the best thing about your job?
I did a job at The Union recently. They do very good work and it’s highly visible. I was not well, it was freezing, I’m struggling with ongoing old war wounds, knee and shoulders, at the moment. It’s a unisex dressing and was far from some of the diva, limousine life I’ve lived.

The cast were so wonderful, there was a real blitz spirit, warm, generous, kind and hilariously funny.  I was as ever, the token posho and not in the group numbers and I’d stand and watch them every night giving everything they had. It was very moving. I’m going to say the people. The people in theatre and not just on-stage. It’s an honour to be A Turn.

Who has most inspired you? And encouraged and supported you?
Various singers, Callas, Sutherland, Corelli, Bjoerling, Stratas. Dancers- Seymour, Sibley and Dowell.

Composers- Prokofiev, Shostakovich, Puccini, Berg.

All hard core classical…

My husband has supported me for 28 years and my friends including Frances Ruffelle, my Les Mis co star. We’ve been mates through thick and thin. My last singing teacher Gerald Martin Moore always loved my voice. Brian Dickie who ran Glyndebourne and Canadian Opera took the biggest chance on me professionally when I was singing Phantom by casting me as Lulu.

Who have you most enjoyed performing with? And who is your role model in the world of the Arts?

I’ve sung with so many extraordinary people it would be wrong to pick out anyone in particular. I love being in a company. I was very proud to be part of the original company of Les Miserables. They were an extraordinary group of talented people.

I also loved being at Opera North. It was like a repertory system and I worked with the same singers in many shows.
I don’t have a particular role model.  When I read an obituary of a performer the ones I admire are people like Robert Helpman who did everything, danced, acted on stage and screen and ran companies.

Also my friend Karen Kain who was Canada’s premiere ballet dancer and now runs the National Ballet. She is an example of intelligence, talent, grace and class who has had ups and downs and is still reinventing herself.

Is it hard being  to be a woman on tour?
It’s hard being a girl on tour. It’s much easier being a woman!

Have you ever felt the effects of sexism or is it pretty egalitarian?
Yes, absolutely.  I certainly encountered actors and directors who felt they had droit de seigneur when I was very young. Disparity in pay, billing, it was and still is a man’s world.

I’ve always been pretty candid, I’ve not played the ingénue even when I was one and I think that’s a shock to people. I think one is expected to be the person on-stage off-stage.

Garth Drabinsky, the Canadian producer of Phantom and recently released from custody used to say “You’re too smart, keep your mouth shut. ”
I can’t imagine him saying that to a man.

Is how you look important in singing, or commented on?
It’s incredibly important.  It’s even more important now. I was never a classically pretty leading lady. A bit too much of a goth Elsa Lanchester type! I don’t think I’d be cast in those roles if I were young now.

Now I think it’s really important for the younger women to see one feeling comfortable with oneself. The fact that actresses vanish at a certain age is very unsettling for all of us so when we do show up its important to show that older actors can be confident and happy and attractive and powerful. Only by doing this can we change things for the next generation.

Age is wisdom. Age is beautiful.

What advice would you give any budding performers?
The only thing you can control in the industry is your technique.

And finally, is there a book, a quote, or motto that has inspired you that you’d care to share with our readers?
Success is not final, failure is not fatal.  It is the courage to continue that counts
Winston Churchill

What matters is not what you do on-stage but what you do when you are off-stage
Bill Bojangles Robinson

Rebecca, thank you so much and do let us know when we next see you in action. Long may you reign!

This is Rebecca’s web site where you can also hear her beautiful voice.

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