Motherhood & Careers, Impossible?

Posted on August 20th, 2014 by - 0 comments


I’m often asked for my thoughts on this topic.

What I’d really like to do is to change the whole system of patriarchy that has made it a relevant question in the first place.

Society needs babies.

Women have babies.

Babies need parents. There are ways of making this happen that work for everyone, just take a look at what some of the Scandinavian countries have done. It requires a fundamental change in attitude.

Business needs women. It’s not sustainable, equitable, or in any way right in this day and age to have most of the power and decision making still in the hands of one half of the population.

But, we are where we are so this is my advice:

Well before the baby longings kick in plan your career as best you can. Discuss the issue well in advance with your partner. They should be as engaged in this as you are; it will be their child too. You don’t know how you will feel when you are pregnant but I guarantee you won’t feel the same. And I can almost guarantee that whatever you decide to do you’ll feel guilty sometimes. When I was home with my babies I often felt frustrated and slightly cross with myself for a) not contributing to our meagre finances, and b) not being at work continuing my career. I lost out on years of advancement. When I was working I’d see a mother with a child and think ‘I should be home with my babies, I miss them so much’. And I only worked part time!

Everyone will have a view and most likely share it with you so it’s important to know what you want before the hormone rush. Your plans may change but you’ll have more control, however you decide to do it. It’s your decision so don’t let others make it for you by default.

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Cats Are Not At All Like Humans….are they?

Posted on August 18th, 2014 by - 0 comments

  I’m not sure if I’ve mentioned this before (ahem) but I have two cats. Yes, I am mad cat lady in waiting and it’s getting closer all the time. It’s not all fun and fur though; my cats do serve a useful purpose in deepening my understanding of the human condition and here’s how: My cats are brother and sister found at 3 weeks old by a cat rescue organisation and reared by humans. I sometimes think this may

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Inspirational Women – Lucy Atkins, Novelist

Posted on August 15th, 2014 by - 0 comments

My first encounter with Lucy Atkins was through her latest book, The Missing One. I downloaded it to my Kindle but almost immediately regretted it; it’s far too good to be kept out of sight on a kindle. It’s certainly not ‘chick lit, (whatever that is) but it might qualify as ‘chic’ lit. After a few cheery exchanges on Twitter I was delighted to be able to talk with Lucy, which resulted in this interview. I hope you enjoy it.

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Tips on Writing Your First Novel/Feature & Following the Dream!

Posted on August 13th, 2014 by - 4 comments

Over the years I’ve had the pleasure to speak with some great women writers. I always ask them for their advice to aspiring writers and below are some of their answers. If you click on the names you’ll be taken through to the original interviews where there is a wealth of information. Sarah Sheridan: What advice would you give to anyone thinking of embarking on a writing career? It is a massively competitive and difficult field and right now it’s

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Gender Equality & Ghana

Posted on August 11th, 2014 by - 0 comments

Regular readers will know that I am an enthusiastic supporter of the charity WomanKind.  We also have plans to deliver RenewYou to women in Ghana (on hold temporarily but not forgotten) so I was thrilled to read this recently in their regular updates: Progress in Ghana Towards Affirmative Action and Women’s Leadership Programmes Manager, Catherine Klirodotakou, has just returned from a visit to Ghana where she met with our partners, Gender Studies and Human Rights Documentation Centre (Gender Centre) and

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Judy Garland Inspires

Posted on August 8th, 2014 by - 0 comments

  Or to put it another way, to thine own self be true. No more to be said… RenewYou is my one day inspiring course for women. My next licensing course is in the Midlands in September. If you’re a trainer/coach with a passion for women’s development you’ll love it! More details.

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