Do You Trust Yourself?

How many people in your life do you trust, really trust? How many people are there in whose opinions you have total confidence?

I hope you can count quite a few. Did you include yourself? Do you trust yourself and your own instincts? Do you have confidence in what you can do and the decisions you make?

Making a Decision

When you have to make a difficult or very significant decision you may have a particular friend whose judgement you value. Or maybe a family member or parent. You may perhaps even imagine advice from someone you don’t know, or someone like a parent, who is no longer living but still a valuable inspiration to you.

It’s good to get advice. But how often do you listen to you? Do you trust your own advice? Do you find yourself thinking sometimes you ought to be doing something?

If you listen very carefully to your inner self you’ll know whether you ‘ought‘ to or not. Don’t rush it, take your time, sleep on it and listen to yourself. Trust yourself to know what is best for you. Literally ask yourself the question and wait to hear the answer in your own head. Trust that you will do what is best for you, whatever anyone else is saying. You are the architect of your own life, in charge of your own development, so take hold of it and follow your instincts.

You may think that an odd thing for me to say, spending a lot of time as I do professionally helping women at various stages in their lives. It isn’t my role to tell women what to do, but to help them work out what it is they want to do! And then to have the confidence to really go for it!

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Posted on March 17th, 2011 by

5 Responses to “Do You Trust Yourself?”

  1. Ceri says:

    Interesting post Jane! I have learnt to trust my instincts over the years, and have tended to find that that my initial reactions or thoughts on situations have proven to be correct. I have only a small number of people whose opinions I truly trust, as I know they have my best interests at heart. However, I do take professional advice on practical and legal matters so that I can make informed decisions.

    • Jane says:

      Thanks Ceri. I think the point about first reactions is very true. When I counselled people facing a serious but optional medical procedure (such as termination, or going full term to deliver a non viable pregnancy) I always gently explored with them what their first reaction was before ‘reasoning’ and ‘common sense’ set in. Those that followed their instincts tended to have best outcomes.
      And I so agree about professional advice, but again, I have no qualms about questioning it if it doesn’t feel right for me.

  2. Ed Han says:

    Jane, it’s been a long time since I’ve been here, am glad I caught this one!

    It’s so important to cast aside self-doubt: it’s a luxury that many can no longer afford, I feel.

    • Jane says:

      Good to see you again, Ed. Can you say more about the luxury comment please? I think I know what you’re getting at but am not sure…

  3. Ed Han says:

    O, I think you do, Jane.

    The fact is that the negative self-talk that a lot of people have *is* a luxury: we tell ourselves “no, that will seem silly, or foolish, or perhaps even arrogant”.

    And that kind of self-talk is a luxury because we tell ourselves these things to avoid the risk of making ourselves vulnerable.

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