Be a Mind Reader! Tip 2

Bird Love by srbchara  stockxchangeSome research by Professor William Ickes shows that, contrary to popular opinion, living with someone for years doesn’t necessarily equate to knowing them well as in understanding what they are thinking!  In fact, he discovered that it could be a distinct disadvantage.

As our intimate relationships develop our ideas and perceptions on our partners tend to become fixed. This means that we have more difficulty interpreting their thoughts accurately because our bias comes into play. We think we know what they are thinking, or going to think, before they themselves have even thought it……

So if you want to try and work out what your partner is thinking, forget you know them! Listen to what they say and do as if they were strangers and you’ll probably get more accurate information

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Posted on January 5th, 2010 by

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