Comments on: Advice – who needs it! http://www.changingpeople.co.uk/2009/advice-%e2%80%93-who-needs-it/ Coaching Training and Personal Development for Women Thu, 02 Feb 2012 12:56:58 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.1.3 By: Jane http://www.changingpeople.co.uk/2009/advice-%e2%80%93-who-needs-it/comment-page-1/#comment-589 Jane Tue, 09 Mar 2010 13:06:21 +0000 http://www.changingpeople.co.uk/blog/?p=1426#comment-589 Yes, it's true. Sometimes we just want comfort food, nothing too chewy! I always check now if they actually want me to make suggestions. Otherwise I just act as a friendly ear. Thanks for your comment, Ros. Jane Yes, it’s true. Sometimes we just want comfort food, nothing too chewy! I always check now if they actually want me to make suggestions. Otherwise I just act as a friendly ear. Thanks for your comment, Ros. Jane

]]> By: Ros Baynes http://www.changingpeople.co.uk/2009/advice-%e2%80%93-who-needs-it/comment-page-1/#comment-588 Ros Baynes Tue, 09 Mar 2010 13:00:10 +0000 http://www.changingpeople.co.uk/blog/?p=1426#comment-588 It's certainly true that a lot of advice is sought primarily as a way of looking for confirmation, and isn't listened to if it is challenging or goes in an unexpected direction. It can be very frustrating to be asked for advice and then have every suggestion rejected as too difficult. But equally I can think of many times when that's exactly what I have done to others! It’s certainly true that a lot of advice is sought primarily as a way of looking for confirmation, and isn’t listened to if it is challenging or goes in an unexpected direction. It can be very frustrating to be asked for advice and then have every suggestion rejected as too difficult. But equally I can think of many times when that’s exactly what I have done to others!

]]> By: Jane http://www.changingpeople.co.uk/2009/advice-%e2%80%93-who-needs-it/comment-page-1/#comment-582 Jane Thu, 04 Mar 2010 12:42:06 +0000 http://www.changingpeople.co.uk/blog/?p=1426#comment-582 Glad you found it helpful, Sharon. I have sometimes been caught out thinking my advice has been sought, when actually it was just a 'getting off the chest' session! I always check now! Glad you found it helpful, Sharon. I have sometimes been caught out thinking my advice has been sought, when actually it was just a ‘getting off the chest’ session! I always check now!

]]> By: Sharon Gaskin http://www.changingpeople.co.uk/2009/advice-%e2%80%93-who-needs-it/comment-page-1/#comment-580 Sharon Gaskin Thu, 04 Mar 2010 09:41:41 +0000 http://www.changingpeople.co.uk/blog/?p=1426#comment-580 Hi Jane, This is great advice on giving advice! Thanks,very useful. I particularly like the distinction between wanting to offload and getting advice as there is a difference between the two and if you don't make it clear to the listener beforehand the listener could be busy racking their brains for suggestions that are not really necessary. Thanks Jane Sharon Hi Jane,

This is great advice on giving advice! Thanks,very useful.

I particularly like the distinction between wanting to offload and getting advice as there is a difference between the two and if you don’t make it clear to the listener beforehand the listener could be busy racking their brains for suggestions that are not really necessary. Thanks Jane

Sharon

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