Comments on: Advice – who needs it!

By: Jane

Jane — Tue, 09 Mar 2010 13:06:21 +0000

Yes, it’s true. Sometimes we just want comfort food, nothing too chewy! I always check now if they actually want me to make suggestions. Otherwise I just act as a friendly ear. Thanks for your comment, Ros. Jane

By: Ros Baynes

Ros Baynes — Tue, 09 Mar 2010 13:00:10 +0000

It’s certainly true that a lot of advice is sought primarily as a way of looking for confirmation, and isn’t listened to if it is challenging or goes in an unexpected direction. It can be very frustrating to be asked for advice and then have every suggestion rejected as too difficult. But equally I can think of many times when that’s exactly what I have done to others!

By: Jane

Jane — Thu, 04 Mar 2010 12:42:06 +0000

Glad you found it helpful, Sharon. I have sometimes been caught out thinking my advice has been sought, when actually it was just a ‘getting off the chest’ session! I always check now!

By: Sharon Gaskin

Sharon Gaskin — Thu, 04 Mar 2010 09:41:41 +0000

Hi Jane,

This is great advice on giving advice! Thanks,very useful.

I particularly like the distinction between wanting to offload and getting advice as there is a difference between the two and if you don’t make it clear to the listener beforehand the listener could be busy racking their brains for suggestions that are not really necessary. Thanks Jane

Sharon